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I really don’t like having to do paid posting over here but having a loved one in prison means you have to support not only yourself but them too and money is a necessary evil. Phone calls, visits, items for them, packages, etc.. You don’t want them to have to suffer too much even though they did put themselves there. It’s a part of loving someone unconditionally.  If I had to I’d do it all over again.

So yet again I can plug tungsten rings and how good they are.

Weddings happen in prison too, if you weren’t aware. They’re very limited in options and usually are performed by a JOP with one witness. The wife can also send in the wedding rings as long as they are simple like <a href=”www.titanium-jewelry.com”>titanium rings</a> or gold. I don’t think men’s can have any stones in them, they’ve got to remain plain. There isn’t really any alone time or anything unless coinjugal visits occur in trailers. There are also a ton of hoops to jump through like being married for 6 months and having to wait in between trailer visits but for those guys with longer sentences I imagine they could be worth it. I wouldn’t mind having one of those. 48 hours alone with him would be heavenly. It’d definitely make our remaining 4 months go by a bit faster.

I’ve been feeling the urge to buy Randy some more clothes like a few more polo shirts or a pair of shorts. It’s not like they’re allowed much expression in there and I’m sure wearing state greens all the time gets blah feeling. They have limited colors and styles as it is but some sneakers and maybe a couple shirts would allow him to feel like he’s in a more “normal” environment. They aren’t allowed to wear any blue so mainly I stick to yellow and shades of red. They allow religious wear and <a href=”www.titanium-jewelry.com/mens-wedding-bands.html”>men’s wedding bands</a> as well but that is pretty much the extend of allowable items.

Well Randy has been doing really good with only calling once a day which is what I’ve been trying to get him to do for the past 2 months as you’ve all heard about before. It took awhile but persistance is the key.  Today he told me that parole is tomorrow or Wednesday. Then it could take until Friday or Monday before he receives the decision about what happens. He’s also got court for custody/paternity and we can finally settle down a bit. I hope it’s all done and said by September. I have a strong feeling that we aren’t going to have to end up buying any <a href=”http://www.sandboxcouture.com”>baby clothes</a> for Dillion but you know how uncertainty works. The nerves don’t go away until you have the definite answer.  I have a feeling it’s going to take until October or November now with the postponement of all these court dates. I think they need to have some regulations on all of that.

I recently just sent a lot of pictures to Randy of home including the scenery and people who have been here recently doing things like playing cards, being silly, and just enjoying ourselves. It made him homesick of course but it also allows him a glimpse into how things are going while he’s away. I don’t know how many of you know but before he went away we were trying to have a baby and I’m glad I didn’t end up getting pregnant right away because I definitely wouldn’t want to have to send him pictures of things like <a href=”www.mamabebe.com”>baby shower favors</a> or me in the hospital having a baby without him right there beside me. A few more months and then we can start back on the path where we were headed in the first place, our life together.

Sorry it’s been awhile. I’ve been busy working a lot and life has been hectic with my family coming to visit from down south. It was quite a crazy time but we had fun and most of all Randy got to talk to the girls on the phone while they were here too, including the baby little Davie. He misses them. Otherwise things are pretty crazy for him with the current divorce in progress, court dates about the custody and paternity of Dillion, and of course Carrie violating probation and being in jail for drug possession. Oy vey! I just want it to settle down. There are 2 court dates that are in August and one at the end of this month. I hope it can just get ordered and done with. We’re not going to be buying any <a href=”www.mamabebe.com”>personalized baby gifts</a> for a child who isn’t his.

I’m irritated, I’ve got to rant about GTL. They just.. ugh. Their systems do not update right. One day I check and the balance is $89 which is enough for 3 more calls and the next it’s $106 because of a late update and i’m maxed out. What does this mean? On our anniversary we do not get to talk at all because it’s a Sunday when I made the payment. Billing is only once a month, ONCE. However, if the $100 is exceeded it needs to be brought under the limit in order to communicate. To them it’s a business but to me it’s more. Not talking can make or break someone’s day and being in there what is there to look forward to BUT contacting those people you love outside of the walls? Bah, now I’m going to be going nuts until tomorrow when we can talk. Stupid company. I wish they’d hurry up with the switch to Unisys but that doesn’t seem to be happening anytime soon because GTL is fighting it. This makes me wish they had access to satellite internet services even more. At least that would be reliable.

I feel really bad that I haven’t been able to go and see Randy lately. I last saw him on May 31st and it will definitely be July 5/6 at the earliest, 21/22 at the latest before I will again. Visits really keep him going which I imagine is true for most inmates. That small deal is enough to keep someone’s spirits up for days even before it takes a downfall again. As a consolation I’ve been keeping extra money on the phone lately so he can call more often and I’m going to send him some money so he can buy some goodies. They can order food and such off of commissary. There are also catalogues to order clothing, electronics, anything that is permitted inside the prison walls actually. He was looking into getting me a ring but I told him I wasn’t interested. I’d rather he spend any money he earns on himself in some way, shape, or form. Not to mention I couldn’t wear titanium rings or silver rings that might be in his budget. My fingers only like gold and a prisoner’s budget is NOT in the gold range. That’s OK though, the gold will come in June of next year.

Time to do a minor update on what is going on regarding the custody and stuff. He got his petition back from the court and it’s officially been filed for the paternity test. This means that on the 30th at the custody/child support hearing that everything SHOULD be resolved. I really hope it all is and we can find out that there won’t be any baby bassinets for Dillion in our near future since we really think that he’s not his child. My anxiety is just wanting these upcoming dates to hit already so everything will be DETERMINED.

Well I just got a phone call and he was able to talk to his parole officer today. He told me that the officer said the letters make things look extremely good and it’s a pretty much guarantee that he is going home in November. His hearing, as you all should know, is next month sometime. He doesn’t get a specific date but nobody does right now. I mailed 6 letters in from various people (aunt, brother, mom, dad, me, friend) and his certificate of completion from rehab last February. The officer has been discussing things with him and hopefully this will all come together next month and all the effort put into getting him home will all be worth it. Once he comes home we’ve got plenty of things that will be put in action (in no particular order) like getting out on our own, him getting a decent job, having a baby and buying things like baby bedding for him or her, and just getting ourselves established without being around other people all the time. It will be quite nice.